OLD being the operative word. I turned 32 at the beginning of April (and I know, its not THAT old). I don't know why but this year was a hard year for me. I think I was just looking at all (well most of them) of my friends & siblings who are my age and younger and they are married with kids some are even done having kids, some have had their first course and gone back for seconds (2nd marriage, which is fine - I am VERY happy for them). But, I haven't even started. My roommate from college has 7 kids...7!!!! She said, "just think, you could have 7 kids." And I said, "I can't even get a husband, let alone have 7 kids."
I feel like no one really prepares you for this stage of life. All growing up you learn about being a good wife and mother. No one talks about being a good single person and how to be good at being alone. Don't get me wrong, I have had fun being single. I've been able to do a lot of things that I wouldn't have been able to do if things were different. I have been very blessed. I am lucky to be able to spend so much time with my nieces and nephews, I love them all so much, (including my Chesley niece & nephews) and I know if I were married things would be different. Its been a good 14 years being a young single adult. But I feel like I am REALLY good at this stage of life and I am ready to move on.
Things I've learned in my 14 years of being single...
1) I really don't mind being alone (like for the night, not for eternity)
2) I can kill bugs all by myself with the help of a vacuum cleaner
3) I can fix a leaky toilet
4) Even though I gag everytime, taking out the garbage isn't the worst thing in the world
5) Its okay for me to put myself first sometimes
6) I can change a flat tire
7) I can jump a dead battery
8) I can install hardware on cabinets
9) I can install a kitchen sink (mostly)
10) I can move really heavy furniture by myself, I just need a lot of time
Thanks to my single-hood-ness - I have learned to be very independent.
4 comments:
You are amazing! You are the best auntie and sister ever!
So sorry this was a hard birthday dood. I love your stinkin guts and am so glad you are a part of my life and my kid's lives....I can't say I understand, because it would a lie, I can try to understand but I've never been there....just know that you've got a great support system! I wish I knew the perfect guy for you....I would drop him on your doorstep because you deserve it! love you!
Oh how I LOVE you Marie!!! And I could think of several more things to add to that list of things you can do (some of which may involve pictures I have of you with cattle and large needles!:D).
I have been out of the blogging and FB loop lately, and feel so bad that I never got to wish you a Happy Birthday. I think Shay said Zan is coming into town soon though, so we all need to get together and do some birthday celebrating!!!
I feel like Marie in that I can't say I can totally understand how you are feeling, but the one thing I know for sure is that you will be a much wiser & more patient mother than me when your time comes. There's been many times I've thought mothering might have gone a little more smoothly if I hadn't rushed into it so quickly & if I actually had a little more life experience. I guess the grass is always greener on the other side.
Love You Tons!!!
First of all I love your list. Because I still freak out every time my car battery is dead! I'm always afraid I am going to blow up the car when I jump it!
Second of all, I wish I could hug you in person (thru the internet it doesn't quite feel the same)
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